Tuesday, March 5, 2013

Give a little Grace

Recently, I have talked to so many mothers who struggle with being a Mom. Not because the work is too hard or the kids are crazy but because they feel a pressure to raise their kids the way everyone tells them to.

It is so hard for this generation of Mothers. Everyone especially other moms judge you for how you "do" or "don't" parent. When we are ALL just trying to figure the whole "mom" thing out. NO ONE has it figured out no matter how much it looks like they do.

Romans 12:9-13
"Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves. Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spirit fervor, serving the Lord. Be joyful in Hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. Share with God's people who are in need. Practice hospitality."

For the big stuff-If you are praying and seeking what the Lord wants you to do for your family then it doesn't matter what people think, cause sometimes he tells you to do crazy things and your like, "um God are you sure this is what you want me to do? cause it's gonna be hard and people are gonna think i'm crazy." and he's like "Yes i'm sure, people thought i was crazy too."

For the little stuff-YOU love your kid more than anyone so obviously you are going to do what you think is best for them. God gave them to YOU to raise, love, and protect, so if he trusts you to do that everyone else should too.
I just wanted to encourage moms struggling with judgement and wondering if you are doing this parenting thing right. YOU ARE.
Whether you let your kid go out in the cold without shoes or a hat on, or if you feed them bananas or chocolate for breakfast, or if you let them cry it out or cuddle them to sleep, or if you give them breast milk or formula, or if you bathe them every night or twice a week, or if you do cloth diapers or disposables, or whether you vaccinate or not, or if you baby wear or not,  or co-sleep or not, or whether you turn your car seat around at a year or 2 years, or whether your kids are home-schooled or go to public school. DON'T LET OTHER PEOPLE MAKE YOU THINK THAT'S NOT OK. IT'S OK. every child is different. they need different things.

Maybe if we just gave a little grace it would make it easier on all of us.


Amanda said...

I'm glad you posted this! This is so true. I'm not sure what it is with our generation and everyone thinking that their way is the best way. I think the internet has a lot to do with it. Everyone has a voice now, and even when you are in your own home alone, other people's parenting do's and dont's are flooding your living room. I totally agree that if you seek God's will for your child, He will let you know what you should do, and it may not be the same thing as what so and so is doing, and that's ok. Kids are different and situations are different. I think it's really hard on us first time moms because everyone has advice to give us. But God gave us instincts as a mom, and He gives us direction everyday if we are His children. He enables us to be what our own children need. Thanks for posting this! I think every mom needs to read it.

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Lauren said...

Amen to that! This post really does speak from the heart and even though I don't have children yet I hear it quite often from women our age and think "it's not your child, don't judge". God knows best and will always provide. :)

Kerrie said...

I think you are great. keep doing what you are doing, and I'm so glad you are blogging again.

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